Counseling Kids by Peters Donald L.;

Author:Peters, Donald L.;
Language: eng
Format: epub
ISBN: 1596642
Publisher: Taylor & Francis Group

PREDISPOSITIONS

In this, at least two factors are at work—an attraction to children and an active sex drive and/or interest.

Including but beyond the concepts of fixation and regression, is the recognition that an attraction to the beauty, innocence, animation, and becomingness of the young is a part of any normal person. Within families, for example, members experience natural attractions, curiosities, and affections, with matter-of-fact touching, potentially stimulating exposure, and expectations of loyalty. And some experience, at least temporarily, the attraction of dominance, of having power and knowledgeable influence over the young and helpless.

Again, sex is a natural function, involving an active drive toward fulfillment. It calls for outlets and repeated satisfactions and is subject to demanding frustrations. Where culturally acceptable releases are ill-defined and/or unavailable, alternative avenues will be sought, consciously or unconsciously. Once orgasmically rewarded, even taboo behaviors will tend to be established and defended through rationalization.

By their nature, sexual encounters, within and outside of marriage, make the participants physically and psychologically vulnerable. The devastations suffered by many men and women in their sexual experiences with peers may well cause them to reach out to youngsters, many of whom seek attention and have awakening sexual needs of their own.

Similarly, adolescents may be prompted to seek and sample sex with younger children.

Consistent with the hierarchy of needs, once orgasm has been achieved and the basic need is satisfied for the moment, a different frame of mind may prevail, temporarily, which may evoke different responses with different people in different settings, but as with all basic need-fulfilling functions, the desire will be renewed. The distant threats of punishment by others or of self-retribution are not adequate deterrents for offenders.

In addition to the predispositions of offenders, any adequate view recognizes the predispositions of potential victims, as well. Even though doing so may not be popular in some circles, the inclinations of potential victims should be noted squarely if we are to head off trouble for kids.

While in no way excusing offenders, a recognition must be made that some victims and some high-risk potential victims may have predispositions of sorts, in their needs for love, attention, and excitement—actually, in each of the seven basic need areas stressed in this book.

But here, in seeking causes, we are speaking primarily of the offender—an adult or an older, stronger, and/or more knowledgeable minor, commonly three or more years older than the victim …

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